i feel some type of way when i hear about someone being pregnant, i know that's selfish and "wrong" or whatever but its my truth so I must deal with it. I also feel some kind of way when a man says to me "you can tell me anything" and when I do, I don't feel the safety he implied with those words. I feel like I may never get what my heart truly desires: happy marriage, adoring husband, wonderful children, fulfilling career. I mean I am not expecting some fairy tale but as time slips away and 30 becomes an age of the past, I wonder when and sometimes if at all my time will come.
I am doing the work and getting through my progress however am I hung up on someone who will never want the same things as I do? Is this all just a waste of my time? Is it time to move on or do I wait a little longer as he shuffles through his circumstances and consequences? I suppose only time will tell, but the real question is, do I really have time for it?
choices, consequenses & circumstances....
when making a decision one must factor in the desired outcome. sometimes I think we blindly choose things without fully debating the "pros" vs. "cons" and understanding the consequences of our action, or sometimes, our inaction. It seems that people often confuse consequences for circumstances and forgot that they are not the same thing, A circumstance is like, "the hand that life deals you" and you must make the best out of it. Whereas a consequence is a direct reflection of a choice, whether it was successful or a failure. No one is responsible for your consequences but YOU however some may say that others contribute to your circumstances. Either way, you alone must become the master of your fate and shape the journey so that it takes you to your desired destination.
lately, I've noticed many people create situations for themselves which are clear consequences of poor decisions and call them "circumstances" and figure they just have to "deal with them" when in fact you can still make a choice to correct the consequence(s), pick up the pieces of your life and move forward to a brighter future. I guess then the key is being willing to deal with the discomfort that comes with, and thats where the problem lies. it seems in this day and age no one wants to put up a fight for their happiness. they seem to figure, "this is what life is all about" however that is so wrong! life is about living well, being healthy, finding and keeping love, growing, learning, maturing, discovering, and so on. I find it quite disappointing to hear someone basically give up on themselves or their future because of a few unfocused decisions.
On the other hand, I find it extremely admirable when someone does the complete opposite and decides to fight for their happiness, to get up early and go to bed late because they are working towards a goal and nothing will stand in their way. Maybe because they have some years they feel they need to "catch up" or they had a few set backs that may have stalled their progress. The sad thing is there are so many people who sit around, not making any decision because they feel like everything they want, desire, need will somehow fall into their lap and they'll magically live some happily ever after.
I guess a few people come to mind as I type this and Im trying to figure out where exactly I fit in but I know that I no longer pass on making sound choices for my life nor do I confuse circumstances with consequenses of my actions or at times inaction.
lately, I've noticed many people create situations for themselves which are clear consequences of poor decisions and call them "circumstances" and figure they just have to "deal with them" when in fact you can still make a choice to correct the consequence(s), pick up the pieces of your life and move forward to a brighter future. I guess then the key is being willing to deal with the discomfort that comes with, and thats where the problem lies. it seems in this day and age no one wants to put up a fight for their happiness. they seem to figure, "this is what life is all about" however that is so wrong! life is about living well, being healthy, finding and keeping love, growing, learning, maturing, discovering, and so on. I find it quite disappointing to hear someone basically give up on themselves or their future because of a few unfocused decisions.
On the other hand, I find it extremely admirable when someone does the complete opposite and decides to fight for their happiness, to get up early and go to bed late because they are working towards a goal and nothing will stand in their way. Maybe because they have some years they feel they need to "catch up" or they had a few set backs that may have stalled their progress. The sad thing is there are so many people who sit around, not making any decision because they feel like everything they want, desire, need will somehow fall into their lap and they'll magically live some happily ever after.
I guess a few people come to mind as I type this and Im trying to figure out where exactly I fit in but I know that I no longer pass on making sound choices for my life nor do I confuse circumstances with consequenses of my actions or at times inaction.
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